Why Intentions Work Better Than Resolutions — A Somatic Approach to the New Year
Every January, we’re encouraged to “set goals,” “push harder,” and “be better.”
But for many intuitive, sensitive, or creative women, resolutions don’t feel motivating — they feel constricting.
They activate pressure instead of possibility.
That’s because resolutions often come from the mind.
Intentions come from the body.
Why Resolutions Often Backfire
Resolutions usually rely on discipline and control — two things that don’t work well when your nervous system is already stressed.
They often sound like:
“I should…”
“I need to fix…”
“This year I won’t be like this anymore…”
From a somatic lens, resolutions can trigger:
resistance
shame
freeze or avoidance
burnout before momentum builds
Your body hears a demand — not an invitation.
Why Intentions Feel Different
Intentions don’t force change.
They orient you toward what you want to move toward.
An intention asks:
How do I want to feel?
What quality do I want more of?
What does my system need to experience this year?
When intentions come from the body, they’re easier to sustain — because they’re rooted in regulation, not pressure.
A Somatic Prompt for the New Year
Instead of setting a resolution, try this:
Place one hand on your chest and one on your belly.
Slow your breath.
Then ask:
“What quality does my nervous system need more of this year?”
You might hear words like:
steadiness
spaciousness
trust
ease
courage
rest
clarity
There’s no right answer — only what feels true.
Let that word guide your choices, not control them.
How Somatic Therapy Supports Intentional Change
Through somatic therapy and EMDR, we work with the underlying patterns that make change feel hard — not by pushing, but by restoring safety.
As your nervous system regulates, intentions naturally become action:
boundaries feel clearer
habits shift organically
motivation returns without force
self-trust deepens
Change becomes embodied — not performative.
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If this year is about alignment rather than achievement, somatic work can support you in getting there.
Disclaimer: This blog is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical or psychological advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Results from therapy may vary. If you're experiencing mental health issues, consult with a licensed mental health provider near you. Ashley K. Whelan is a holistic psychotherapist in California offering EMDR, somatic therapy, and psychedelic integration for women seeking mind-body-spirit healing. Reading this post does not create a therapist–client relationship. If you are experiencing significant emotional distress, please seek support from a licensed mental health professional.