Stop Fixing Yourself and Start Building Your Life
Self-awareness is powerful. But for many women — especially the intuitive, sensitive, high-functioning ones — it becomes a trap.
You read all the books. You do the journaling.
You track your cycles, your habits, your triggers.
You know exactly why you feel stuck.
But knowing isn’t the same as moving forward.
At a certain point, you have to stop fixing yourself and start taking action.
The Self-Help Loop Can Keep You Small
There’s always another program.
Another wound to heal.
Another belief to rewire.
Another layer to “clear.”
And while healing is important and a sacred part of your journey, it can also become a form of self-contained avoidance — a way to delay doing the brave thing.
Because building a life you love requires more than reflection — it requires risk.
You Don’t Have to Be Fully Healed to Begin
This is the myth that keeps so many people spinning:
“Once I work through [issue of the week], then I’ll be ready.”
But readiness rarely shows up before action.
And confidence is often the result of doing the thing — not the prerequisite.
You don’t need to feel fully healed.
You just need to feel safe enough to try.
This Is Where Nervous System Work Comes In
When your nervous system is stuck in survival — fight, flight, freeze, or fawn — your dreams feel unsafe.
Even the good things you want start to feel overwhelming.
That’s why real change doesn’t come from more thinking.
It comes from state shifts.
From experiences that help your body learn that it’s safe to create, express, receive, and move forward.
What I Offer Instead of More Fixing
As a holistic psychotherapist in California, I help women shift out of fear and into embodied clarity using somatic therapy, EMDR, and integrative healing tools.
In my practice — whether online or in person in Santa Cruz, Monterey, Carmel Valley, San Luis Obispo, or Big Sur — I help women stop over-analyzing and start embodying the life they came here to live.
We use:
EMDR to release the old stories at the root
Somatic therapy to regulate your body’s response to expansion
Psychedelic-assisted therapy (where legal and appropriate) to catalyze clarity and embodiment
A blend of bold guidance, deep presence, and tools that invite you back to your power
It’s Time to Create, Not Just Process
If you’re tired of circling the same themes,
If you’ve already learned the lessons,
If you’re ready to live, not just stay on the healing hamster wheel
Let’s work together. Not to fix you — but to support the version of you that’s already ready to begin.
Check out my website to learn more and take the first step.
Disclaimer: This blog is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy, diagnosis, or medical treatment. Always consult with a licensed provider in your state for personalized care.
