Why I Use EMDR to Help Women Heal from the Wounds of Situationships
If you’ve ever been in a situationship, you know the kind of pain it can leave behind. The confusion, the self-doubt, the wondering if you were ever really chosen. It doesn’t always look like trauma on the outside—but emotionally, it can cut deep.
That’s why I use EMDR therapy to help women heal from the emotional wounds of situationships.
Situationships Make an Impact on the Nervous System
A situationship is more than just a casual connection. It’s a gray-zone relationship that often mimics intimacy but lacks clarity, safety, or mutual commitment. Over time, this lack of stability can:
Trigger attachment wounds from earlier in life (hello, unavailable parent.)
Activate a chronic fight/freeze/fawn survival response
Lead to patterns of rejection sensitivity, emotional reactivity, or shutdown
You might logically know it wasn’t your fault but still feel like you weren’t good enough. That’s the kind of pain that lives in the subconscious, and that’s exactly where EMDR can help.
How EMDR Helps Rewire Emotional Responses
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a form of therapy that works directly with the nervous system and subconscious memory network. It helps you reprocess past experiences so they no longer feel emotionally charged or defining.
When we apply EMDR to the emotional fallout from a situationship, we:
Target memories of abandonment, mixed signals, or emotional invalidation
Reduce the internalized shame and confusion that often follows
Install new beliefs that support self-worth, discernment, and clarity in future relationships
In short, it helps your system stop bracing for rejection—and start expecting mutuality in relationships.
For Women Who Are Sensitive, Spiritual, and Self-Aware
I work with many women who are intuitive, emotionally attuned, and often the ones who see the deeper meaning in everything. That’s part of what makes situationships so hard. You weren’t just casually dating—you were connecting, sensing, hoping, and overthinking.
EMDR allows us to work with the part of you that still feels stuck in the emotional aftermath even after your mind has "moved on."
I’ve experienced relationships like this myself. EMDR was essential in helping me move on and leave the confusion of that dynamic behind, so I could be more present with an emotionally available partner in a healthy and secure relationship.
You don’t have to talk it all out over and over. We can work at the level of the body and subconscious, where real change happens.
Online Integrative Therapy Across California
I’m a licensed holistic psychotherapist based in California, and I offer online EMDR therapy for women across San Diego, San Luis Obispo, Monterey, the Bay Area, and beyond.
If you’re tired of feeling stuck in relationship patterns that leave you questioning your worth, let’s work together.
Disclaimer: This blog is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical or therapeutic advice. Reading this post does not establish a therapist-client relationship. If you are seeking clinical support, please visit somaticspiritualtherapist.com for more information about therapy services available to California residents.